Halima Nwakaego has opened up about her life, single parenting, business ventures, finding love again, heartbreak and her attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) after divorce from Bashir El-Rufai.
Bashir, the son of former Kaduna state governor, Nasir El-Rufai, and Halima, daughter of former Senator from Jigawa State, Ibrahim Kazaure, got married in 2020.
They welcomed a set of twins, two boys, the following year.
Bashir announced the end of his marriage to Halima, citing “Gen Z wahala”
He later tendered a public apology over the way he announced the end of his marriage.
In a post published on her Substack: Memoirs of a Single Nigerian Twin Mum with ADHD, on Tuesday, August 18, 2026, she revealed that her marriage ended in July 2024, when their sons were two.
The mother of two shared that she fell in love with another man months after the divorce but it ended in heartbreak.
“There is a saying that men will stain your white,” she wrote.
Halima admitted she never had much faith in marriage and knew hers would end before it even began because she grew up believing men are safe places.
“Imagine entering a marriage already preparing for it’s funeral,” she wrote.
She compared her love for white clothing, despite constant stains, to her deep faith in love alongside her skepticism of men.
“For someone with so little faith in men, I have a ridiculous amount of faith in love,” she added.
